Another Punk A** "Natural Hair Nazi" Opinion

     This is a post from one of the "Natural" groups I'm a member of on facebook. Of course If you know me this post rubbed me the wrong way. I think its actually shows exactly why women who choose to rock relaxers,weaves and wigs think all naturals are extremist "Natural Hair Nazi". To say someone is lazy because they are rocking a weave or wig is very weird to me. I for one can not understand how you can look at someone wearing a weave in my opinion is the very reason people wont become natural. This is what gets on my damn nerves about the natural hair community. you get someone that has been natural for a few years and they all of a sudden become "Natural Hair Gurus". Just because you have a standard of what you consider natural to consist of doesn't mean every one has to follow your rules. Lets be honest im sure a lot of us aren't eating all natural products and riding bikes to work. Shoot do we even recycle our plastics and aluminum? Im just saying what someone else is doing with their hair should not determine how much of a natural you are, so in result is shouldn't effect you at all point blank period. Btw the poster of this thread is a male but it still doesn't change his foolishness.

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     So your telling me that you wear a wig to protect your natural hair so it can grow??? What ever happen to 

wearing "HATS" if it's only about protection. I'm not saying that your wrong for wearing wigs and weave but 

stop pretending that you only do it to protect your hair. I know alot of women are doing wigs and weave out here in New York City in the borough of Brooklyn because they are running from the truth. They are realizing the truth that to maintain this new "TREND" of so called being "Natural" is alot of work and they have regrets or maybe they are using blowdryers and doing other things causing damage to their natural hair and don't want their friends to find out. They're too lazy to do the right thing to their natural hair and they are embrassed from their edges not growing back from all those years of perms. If your not true to natural hair and your only doing it to follow others then what will happen if people start going back to perms are you going to relapse and go back? I treat my natural hair like I want to be treated: "WITH RESPECT". No matter what the length of your natural hair wear it out and be proud. You are all beautiful and I have respect and love for all.

Here Are Some Responses To This Post:

• well they clearly just don't know how to handle their hair if they are ashamed plus you're speaking from your perspective of what you know. I personally just bought a wig a inspiration and have never had an issue with my edges.
• Why do u care so much?? If they want to wear wigs, so what? I dont care if they wear them cause they dont like dealing with their own hair. I dont mind ppl stating their opinions, but dont keep forcing it on folks!
• In the end, does it really matter why someone chooses to wear their hair a certain way? I loooooooove my kinky hair, I still like straight hair too but I choose not to use heat on my hair. I'll be weaved up soon but it's not because I'm lazy or running from the "truth"........ I'm simply being versatile with the styling options that are available to me. My hair wouldn't grow to be a healthy 14 inches if it wasn't treated with respect.
• Ok not all ppl who wear wigs or weaves are ashamed of their hair.people have seen my natural hair and i wear it out most of the time.i want to wear wigs or braids because i feel like it.there are a great protective styles to me .my hair is benefiting from doing that.my hair is not damaged because i know what im doing and take good care of the hair underneath.i don't like hats so i won't wear them ,there are other options.its a personal preference.
• ill take a 18-24, inch sew in and regardless if I call it a protective style or not.....honey I'm not wearing no hat that's looks like your hiding something IMO.....guuuurrrrrllllll u tried it with this post....
• Yet another post of someone opinion and perspective.... And the defenses go up..... She was very specific as to who she was speaking of.. Z. And didn't say everyone who wears weaves and wigs are doing it for these reasons.... I see your point and there are some this applies to... When I was relaxed and didn't feel like doing my hair I wore a wig... And it was str8 Bn lazy... and that's part of why my hair was so messed up b4 I decided to BC and take this natural journey.... This is giving me patience and forcing me to actually keep it up... I have days where I wanna say f$&@ it I'm buying a wig or getting a weave but that's cause I don't wanna deal with my hair... not cause I'm Bn protective... I haven't done it yet I'm holding out Nd have learned to embrace this whole thing and other things to help me. Feel comfortable with my decision... AGAIN not all who wear them are lazy etc. but there are some who do exist that's her point and it was clear in her post...
•  Like hats, there are different looks wigs & weaves give women. All sorts of options that can be fun,daring,sexy etc..to change up from the norm and with so many options, like color,length,textures,bold or simple most women like change from time to time. I know women that loves wigs that rock natural looking wigs(I have too) to roll play or that wear them around their husbands or boyfriends because he enjoys her many looks and loves their natural hair as well, just saying like in life we all have options & choices daily, hair is no different, natural hair styles today or rock a wig or weave tomorrow?? This is just another option...and I'm out!! *now back to our regular scheduled program* lol
• i definately see the pint og the post and i don't see a problem on how she says it..she just wants people to hide from the truth...i have nothing against relaxed or wigs or anything like that...but i understand her point..if you claim to be natural but refuse to show it (and on top of that make up excuses for hiding your natural hair) then you are a trend hopper..trynna stick to the "natural trend"(o Lord help me on this lol) while at the same time escaping the negative comments people have to say about natural hair (nappy, untamed, all the BS)..now it is another thing if the wig-wearer is actually not being deceptive but is trying to grow their hair out (its just another way to transition)..but the wig-wearer that calls herself natural must understand...the natural has to show sooner or later :)

*Click here to see entire thread Natural Hair Thread On FaceBook

Shea Moisture Curl Souffle Review

     I recently decided to jump on the bandwagon and try the Shea Moisture products. I was very reluctant because everyone seem to love it and usually for me that means my hair would hate it. I was very desperate and in need of something new. I had been using grease and water for one year straight and loved it. However it was clogging my pores and causing my face to break out. Not only that I noticed that my hair didn't look like it was moisturized. It almost seemed as though my hair had built up a resistant to the grease lol I know that sounds crazy. i just felt like it was time for a change my twist outs weren't coming out right and my hair looked shinny but felt dry and brittle.

     Girl when I tell you my hair loved the Shea Moisture Curling Souffle, I feel like I found the Holy Grail of natural hair products. I have 4C hair and my hair needs a product that is thick and will give me hold and moisturize at the same time.  My twist out were very defined and moisturized and my hair felt like butter. I feel like kicking myself because I have been missing out on this.  Trust me this will now be a staple product in my hair care regimen I am officially #teamsheamoisture


About the Product: 
Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curling Souffle Gel
This all natural styling souffle with agave nectar and flax seed oil defines and promotes curls, with a soft, smooth after feel. Coconut and flax seed oils nourish and hydrate hair, seal the hair shaft to protect against external pollutants and assist natural oil retention. The natural humectant complex of agave nectar, coconut oil, glycerin and shea butter moisturizes, conditions and boosts shine without frizz.

Pros:

• leaves hair with moisture and shine
• a little goes a long way
• smells great
• great hold
• defines twist and curls
• seals in the moisture
• its just the bomb.com
• Price ($9.99 per item) but a little goes a long way so you won't run out fast
• for all hair types and curl patterns

 Cons:

• sticky
• leaves hands with a syrup feeling
• if you use too much hair will feel like gummy
• takes a long time to dry 
• can not reapply will cause product build up

Go Get It!!!!!

I love this song, the picture of me and Yandy from Love in Hip Hop 

reminds me that one day my dream of interviewing "celebs" will come true one day.

You will know who yahgirltiffy is watch and support me that's all I ask. 

Mary Mary "Go Get It"

You've been qualified

But his mercy multiplied
You cannot be denied
Cuz you're finally certified
It's official
Go ahead and testify
He's gone bless you
You gone bless him
Now God be glorified

SNY: Carol's Daughter 1-2-3 Transition Kit Event/Giveaway

Carol’s Daughter has created a product line specifically formulated for transitioning to natural hair and SNY 
will give away 50 of these kits to anyone that is serious about transitioning. But wait there is more.


We have tons of Curls and Eden Body Works Samples. Hold on that’s not all.

We also have 5 Carol’s Daughter-Olive Oil Infusion Kits, 1 Eden BodyWorks Peppernint 5 piece Tea Tree Collection and a gift from Curls that a few lucky winners will take home. Ok there is one more thing.

We will also be giving away free samples of our signature SNY SAVVY cake cupcakes from Cia’s Taste bud creations.

Date: Monday, May 28th

Where: Juke House during Soul Session located 1700 E 18th St Kansas City, MO

Time: 7-10pm (while supplies last) See you there.

THE LADIES OF SNY (SAVVY NATURAL YOU)

SPONSORED BY

Happy 1yr Nappiversary to Me 5/16/2012

     Hey ya'll yah girl did it I'm exactly one year natural today yay me. I big chopped last year May 16, 2011 in my bathroom with a pair of kitchen scissors, after becoming impatient with my hair. So I just stood in the mirror and cut all my relaxed ends off. After I was done I was left with about 1 to 2 inches of hair. I would be lying if I said I wasn't nervous and having second thoughts like daaaaammmmmn I done messed up. I wasn't exactly the most confident about my new found look due to not having the right products or knowing my hair. It always seemed to look extra try and brittle. I would constantly ask my friends,family and coworkers if my hair looked ok. The negative comments I received didn't help either I mean some of the stuff folks would say. Any way flash forward to one year later and I am so in love with my hair. I feel like my hair is always the best in the room and you cant tell me my fro aint banging.

• My hair loves good ole fashion hair grease
• what works for others may not work for me
• It just hair it will grow back if not buy a wig
• Don't let people push what being "natural" means on me
• My hair doesn't make me I make my Hair
• Cowashing is my Friend
• wash and goes are the devil
• Don't worry about length it will come
• Have fun!!!!!

1st pic was taken 4 days post I BC
2nd pic was 2 months post BC 7/05/11
3rd pic was 6 months post BC 11/05/2011
4th Pic was taken 11 months post BC

Thinking About You

Frank Ocean

"Thinking About You"

Yes, of course
I remember, how could I forget?
How you feel?
And though you were my first time
A new feel
It won't ever get old, not in my soul
Not in my spirit, keep it alive
We'll go down this road
'Til it turns from color to black and white

Hair Type

Andre Walker, who won numerous Emmys for his work on the Oprah Winfrey Show, first worked out a hair type system to help classify his clients with textured hair. Below is the hair typing system to help you figure out what your hair type is. I Think this is very important to know with this info you'll have a little insight on what products work best for your hair. Some People don't like hair typing and consider it another form of the brown paper bag test. But that is a whole other blog post we shall keep this one cute lol.

Hair Type 1: Straight

The end.

Hair Type 2: Wavy

If you fall into this category, your hair when wet forms a loosely shaped ‘S’. Furthermore, your texture can range from thin (Type 2a) to somewhat thick (Type 2b) to very thick and coarse (Type 2c).

Hair Type 3: Curly

Those with Type 3 hair texture will see a tighter curl as their hair dries and more of an ‘S’ shape. The texture is fuller and sometimes frizzy. Type 3b looks more like ringlets or tight corkscrews with the circumference of a crayon.

Hair Type 4: Kinky

Kinky hair types have the most defined curl. It appears more like a zig zag and tightly coiled. This type of hair is the most fragile so be delicate when drying, combing, brushing or exposing to heat. Those with Type 4b will see less of a coil or curl and the hair will bend in sharp angles like the letter ‘Z’.

Have You Heard Of The Curly Girl Method...

     I have been hearing a lot of talk about the Curly Girl Method on blogs, forums,YouTube etc.... Like many of you I had no Idea what this was so I had to do a little research. I stumble on a very informative article on WikiHow that helped me understand exactly what this method was. Here is a snippet from the article below:

     ......The curly girl method (also referred to as "no-poo") is based on the book "Curly Girl" by Lorraine Massey. The nickname "no-poo" alludes to not using a sulfate shampoo, because sulfates' tend to strip the hair of its natural oils. Once you take away the sulfates, your hair can retain its natural moisture.

I won't be trying this method but I think It would be great for those of use with hard to manage curls. For those of you wanting to try the method you can purchase the book from Walmart.com right now for $8.00. Click Here To Buy the Book Click Here: How To Follow The CG Method If you decide to try this method i would love for you to share your results with me. 

As to why I'm not doing the curly girl method....The Regimen requires that you use a non sulfate shampoo and little to no oils/grease or silicone conditioners. These are a staple in my hair care regimen and it works for me. I am a firm believer if its not broke don't fix it. However I must say I read a lot of reviews on this method and pretty much every one that uses it are happy with the results. I'm not saying I will never try the method I just don't feel its something I need right now.

"NO POO"

Does Carols Daughter Hate Black Women?

Selita Ebanks, Solange Knowles & Cassie Are The New Faces Of Carol’s Daughter

     I was on a natural hair forum on facebook and stumbled on a link one of the members posted. What caught my eye was the title  "Carol's Daughter HATES Black women- Why no Self-Respecting Black Woman Should EVER Purchase Carol's Daughter Products EVER!" Like most of you I had to see what the fuss was about. I read the blog twice just to make sure I didn't miss anything. Honestly I didn't see where the blogger was coming from. I felt like this blogger was reaching like most people do when they are looking to start some mess. In the blog post she basically accuses the founder of CD Lisa Price of being a sell out. Also she claims the Managing Director and CEO Steve Stoute of being a bigot. Check out a snippet from the blog post:

"Generally speaking most brands that create products for a specific demographic, don't go out of their way to say that their customers are unimportant, unwanted, or obsolete. They may think it, but they will never build a marketing campaign around it."

     

     This all started after CD announced the new faces of the company in a press release. I guess people are upset at what the Steve Stoute actually said. I have read his statement five times and for the life of me can not find where he said the company hates black women. He says he wants the company to be colorless to me meaning he doesn't want it to be known as just a "black only" product. Sounds like to me CD is wanting to expand their market. Below is the actual press release read for yourself and let me know if you feel it sounds like carols daughter is selling out. 

"We want to be the first beauty brand that truly captures the beauty of the tapestry of skin types in America. When I say polyethnic, I mean women who are made up of several ethnicities. If you ask them what they are, they’re going to use a lot of different words to describe themselves. That’s in line with the Census data coming out — people are checking much more than two boxes. We believe we’ve put together a shoot that celebrates many different ethnicities, to become a mirror of what America’s really becoming.[...]“They will serve as cultural ambassadors in bringing forth this acceptance that the definition of beauty is now colorless."

     My final thoughts on this I never used Carols Daughter but I have always associated their products with being made for African American hair. I think this was more for my ladies that are mixed with many ethnic backgrounds. Carols Daughter wanted those women to know their product is colorless. Basically you don't have to be "Black" to use their products. People need to stop being so sensitive and looking for things to complain about. click here for the full blog post  "Carol's Daughter HATES Black women- Why no Self-Respecting Black Woman Should EVER Purchase Carol's Daughter Products EVER!"

Cosmic Journey

Solange ft Bilal

"cosmic journey"

Won't you go deeper than deep can dig into me

Make the words roll over your tongue to mine

As I probably kiss you better than I'll tell you

And the way that you touch feel so sublime