Do you love him more than you love yourself?

   Its hard for me to write this blog post...because what sparked this blog was very traumatizing and sad....but it needs to be said....I for one knows what its like to be in an a relationship that is one sided...meaning only one person is in the relationship.....I know what its like to be in a abusive relationship....I usta make the excuse well he ain't hitting me like Ike did Tina so its not that bad.....well one time is one to many and at that point you need to decide do you love yourself more than you love him.....Some of us want our relationships to work out so bad rather it be for the kids or not that we accept toxic relationships over be single.....Some of us don't know how to be single we gotta have somebody to call our own.....What point do you say hey I had enough this isn't working and bounce.

I don't wanna go into details concerning this out of respect for my friend.....so but I have to write this and clear my mental closet because this has been clogging my thoughts and it wont leave until I express myself....No matter what your going through in a relationships the highs or lows.....you should never feel like his life is more important than yours.....If you get to the point where the hurt in your relationship is enough to end your life....than baby that's when its should be clear to you that you no longer have self love....and how can you love him if you don't even love yourself.....Its easy to want to put the blame all on the man.....At the same time its something called being accountable. You have to be accountable for your actions and just as much as he is this or that....what have you done to improve your self?

Imma leave it at that Let me ask y'all a question feel free to comment I would love the feedback.....Have you ever been in an abusive relationship? What made you realize you were in one? What made you leave? Abuse can be mental,verbal or physical.....Did you hold yourself accountable for your the choices you made in the relationship? What got you through the relationship? If you can give a woman advice going through the same thing you went through what would it be?

NEARLY 60 PERCENT OF ALL YOUNG WOMEN HAVE EXPERIENCED ABUSE

29% of women surveyed said they’d been in an abusive relationship.

• 62% of those women have been hit, shoved, or slapped.
• 33% choked or strangled.
• 11% who say their partner is currently abusive predict he “will seriously hurt or kill me.”

*to read more about this check out Glamour: The Facts: Relationship Violence 2011 Statistics